Managers

My manager and I broke up a few weeks ago. It was pretty painful. I dont know what is the "right" way to go about it, but my advice I have to offer is to do your research and think of whoever you sign with as a partner. Choose them like a lover. And, most importantly, TRUST YOUR GUT!! If your gut says something is off, look, I'm all for giving it the "freshman try," but after a while of not feeling 100%, its time to go!

I dont regret my choice to spend the last 3 years of my professional life with this person, I certainly gained some opportunity from it and learned a lot. And I guess its something I needed to go through, to experience. BUT, six months into the relationship I felt something was off. In fact, when I first met this person, my gut said no no no no no. But my head said "look at all those gigs your friend has booked through this person." So, seduced by my friend's resume, I kept on.

Again, I will say that some good things certainly came of the relationship, but also, this was a very intense personality to have to deal with on a regular basis. It was exhausting. I was often spoken to like a child who didnt know any better about the biz - and that's not true. I know a lot. You need to feel respected and that you too respect your representation.

I see it happening all the time - actors wanting so badly to be sent out, and I've seen friends of mine end up in a similar situation as I did. Its a fine line, dealing with people. There are some terrific human beings in this biz and some are....wow. You have to figure out your own comfort level - what type of people you want to be surrounded by, what you are willing to put up with, and when you need to move on. YOU are the one up to bat for YOU.

I'm in a different place now then I was when I first began this contract that just ended. Back then, I too, wanted so badly to be sent out. I've grown up a lot since then. Now, I would like to get sent out, but I dont get upset if I'm not. Its the icing on the cake (when it happens) that I am grateful for. I've got my production company, writing my solo show and my Fair Trade endeavor to keep me busy and feeling a great sense of satisfaction.

At the end of the day, its all a lesson. We're all just out there doing our best. All these lessons are part of the process, not only as an artist, but as a human being.